Question by Kira: **Christians** How far is too far in Christian dating?
Ok, so I am a Christian and I plan to start dating soon, how far do you think is too far on Christian based dating? Obviously sex or anything of the sort is WAY out Of the question, but what about kissing and hugging? Thanks!!
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Answer by I Am Risen
There is to be no dating in christianity. Google Christian side hugs.
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nothing lower than neck is allowed and nothing above the ankles is allowed.
No P.C. (physical contact)
I recommend group dating.
Looking at each other is not permitted if you are attracted to them.
One guideline should be that nobody touches where the other person would wear a swimsuit. Staying in a standing or sitting position is another.
I admire your desire to stay pure through the dating scene. God bless you.
Depends on who you ask.
In my opinion, kisses that last more than 10-20 seconds should be avoided because they can lead to temptation. Heavy petting and making out are both bad ideas. Hugging is fine, as is holding hands.
No touching (e.g. holding hands, brushing past each other accidentally), no eyes meeting, no speaking to each other.
Outside of marriage, of course.
Oral only.
dating is not allowed in christianity kissing is a sin huging is a sin love is a sin everything is a sin
Too much kissing can lead to other things. I know this only too well.
If you are saved you will hear God tell you to cool it.
If not then you will be led by your flesh and the devil.
and anything goes for your flesh and the devil.:(
Kissing and Hugging is just fine !
I’m 26 years old and getting baptized in Christ next month so all of this is pretty fresh.
No sex before marriage. go with the flow for the rest. if you don’t feel comfortable kissing on a first date, than DON’T. if you want to kiss on a first date that Go for it.
the only real “sin” is sex before marriage (according to the bible).
As for the rest, I say follow your heart and play it by ear as the date(s) unfold. Go with the flow. Don’t worry about being a good or bad christian, that’ll just affect the date
All you really need to do is pretend that both of your parents are watching everything. Obviously, this is impossible, so parents rely on God.
Whatever you would not do in a church pew publicly should not be done privately.
Voice in the Wilderness
What’s wrong with kissing and hugging? Moreover, what’s wrong with sex? I mean, I’m not advocating going out and sleeping with the guy on your first date, but if things get serious, but you’re not going to marry, what’s wrong with sex? It’s a sin, sure. But so is a lot of things. Even if you live your life completely without sin, you have sinned simply by being born, for all people are born with sin. That’s what Jesus gave His life for; He saved us all from sin. Repent, and stay more or less a good person, and you’ll be fine. Don’t worry so much.
I think hugging and some kissing is okay but like groping and the sorts is too much. The important thing is to stop what you’re if you feel like your heading down the path of “going all the way”. Plus the Holy Spirit will let you know when it’s time to cool down a bit…kinda get some space between you and the guy…always listen to that gut feeling that won’t stop until you listen…
Hope this helps.
Edit:
I somewhat agree with the comment below my comment but in some ways I don’t.
1. (if you don’t know yet) YES! Date someone with the same beliefs as yours. Some people are pretenders so pray to God that He may reveal the truth of that persons intentions for you.
2. Trust in God and stick to being a Christian. If you have the Holy Spirit in you, God will prevent you from doing the wrong things no matter how bad something may feel or how bad you may hurt, the Holy Spirit will prevent you from certain actions. Being a Christian self control is important that’s one of the things we have to practice.
Once again I really hope this helps. Pray and read your Bible.
Let me give you some food for thought, and these are principles, more or less, that I keep in mind (I don’t date at all).
– Consider how dating will affect your relationship with the Lord. Our tendency with such things (relationships with people) is to allow them to occupy our minds all the time. “Oh, I wonder what he’s doing right now…maybe I’ll text him.” *5 minutes later* “I’m gonna send him another text because I can’t help but think of him!” *5 minutes later* “I hope he’s not cheating on me. I’ll send him another text.”
Ok, that was a bit over the top, I know. But that’s sorta how we act, right? Our thoughts wander.
– Consider how your relationship with this person will affect your other relationships within the body of Christ (those of your fellowship/church body). Will you allow a guy to get in the way with your relationships with other people? Will your boyfriend inhibit you from growing with other people?
Another tendency we can have (especially as women, I think) is to get jealous. “What’s he doing talking to another girl?!” “Oh, that girl better NOT talk to MY man! He’s mine!” Etc. Such emotions can drive us apart from one another, bringing in schism, something the Bible warns us NOT to allow.
– Lastly, consider other things:
1. Is he a Christian himself? You don’t want to be involved in a relationship with some one who is NOT of like precious faith. How can two walk together unless they be in agreement? The Bible says that. Also, the Bible says not to be unequally yoked: what commonality does light have with darkness?
2. Be mindful of your emotions. I touched this with some stuff mentioned above. When our emotions get high, and our heart beats are really on fire, we can sometimes NOT think. That’s when accidents can happen (you play with “touching each” other and that may lead to something else…)
There are benefits to waiting, even if our hearts yearn to have that kind of relationship. (And that’s perfectly normal too.) By waiting, we won’t have to go through the pangs of heartaches or drama, plus other things that could happen should things go awry. Trust the Lord that He knows who you need.
Put God first is really the point of it all. I think dating can be self-centered, you looking out for what you want and not really what God may want. I say “may.” Just think about it and commit it to the Lord. I believe you are one who wants to honor the Lord. 🙂
Edit: @ Tia – if you don’t know if your prospect shares the same beliefs as you, what business do you have in even saying “Ok, let’s date now!”? Doesn’t sound smart. I would hope you would KNOW him well enough to know where he stands. That would be on my priority list.
Holding hands… you can get pregnant that way.
You can blow kisses but that’s about it, maybe a quick hug in a supervised setting.
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