He’s in China, I’m in America; can this work? He wants me to travel to China to meet him. I won’t do that.

We met on a Christian Mingle site. He started in with the love talk fairly quick. He was calling and when it came him wanting to meet in person, he did not want to come to America. He said travel would be easier for me because he would have to request a visa from his country, South Africa. Now, he never calls me and we IM but, I do not really want to be bothered with being emotionally enthraled with someone so far away. I am a woman and feel safer if he were to come here. Another thing is that he wants me to stay at his apartment; I feel that any person traveling that far to meet a stranger should have their own space. Meaning, stay at a hotel. He disappeared for 4 days a few weeks ago and I was upset because he just did not think about how I would feel. He did not see why I was upset. He said he was busy but, if he did not make time in a busy situation by typing a message, what would I expect from him all the way in China?